Friends with Kids. When is it too much?

I'm in my late thirties now and I have no kids.  I realize this makes me a freak to some people but I'm okay with that.  I like kids just fine and think many of them are incredibly adorable, funny and sweet. Some of them are brats but that's okay too.  At my age, pretty much all of my girlfriends, sans one, has children now.  I love my friends and their kids and am completely supportive of their choice to be moms, whether working or stay at home.

Ummm, no thanks.

I will say that when your friends have kids, it does change the friendship.  Naturally, they have less time to hang out, they can't be as spontaneous as they used to be with last minute plans and late night activities (concerts, etc..) become rare.  To be honest, this has also been good because I find that the older I get, the less I tend to do those things anyway, even without kids.  However, I did end a long-term friendship with one friend after she became a mom, which was unfortunate, but I still think it was the right decision.

Much cuter

So, this is for the new moms out there.  Love your kids but you don't have to lose your friendships with all of your non-mom friends.  The story with this one friends is that she became a complete mom-freak after she had a kid.  None of my other girlfriends have gone this far.  I finally reached a breaking point.  Now, I know that all of my friends love their little tykes but she took it to the extreme.  To the point where I couldn't stand to be around her anymore.  Just a few examples of what i consider to be over the top "mom" behavior:

• We had discussed taking a weekend spa trip someplace close by (i.e., less than a 4 hour drive).  She backed out of the trip, telling me that "I will never, ever take a trip or vacation away from child. Ever."

• Our conversations became 100% about her child.  When I say 100%, I mean 100%.  No detail of her child's life was spared.  If I asked her about her (or her husband), she would switch the subject back to her child with a comment like "Who cares about anything else?"

• One time I tried to talk to her about a work situation I was having (you know, b/c I thought friends were supposed to listen to each other and help).  About 3 minutes into my description, she looked away, rolled her eyes and told me that "work is so trivial after you have a child. One day you'll understand that."

• She began incessantly asking me when I was going to have a baby.  She would also tell me that I needed to "hurry up" as she didn't want to save her baby hand-me-downs forever (mind you, I never asked her to save them).

• She openly criticized me and other non-moms as being somehow inferior to women that have had children.  You know, we're" unfulfilled", we "don't get it" and we have never "really known love."

• I once gave her a copy of Chelsea Handler's book My Horizontal Life as my friend had always had a raunchy sense of humor.  A few weeks later she gave it back to me saying that she couldn't read past the first chapter b/c as a mother now, she couldn't bear to read such filth.  She told me the book was "shameful."

Those are just a few examples.  It got to the point that I realized I was getting absolutely nothing out of the friendship as it was completely a one-way street.  I also realized that every time I was around her, she just made me feel bad about myself.  So, I stopped calling and emailing her.  I stopped asking her out for dinner, drinks or movies.  I rejected the few invitations she threw my way and eventually we just stopped speaking.  There was no big fight, no drama.  We each just walked away.  That was after almost 10 years of friendship.  Sometimes it makes me sad but I guess some friendships just run their course and if both parties aren't willing to work at keeping the friendship, you have to move on.